How to Find Your Motivation
Good Morning All! Tomorrow is mother’s day! I want to take a moment to tell all of you ladies out there, HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY! With that being said, today I will be talking about How To Find Your Motivation. As a parent, I often lose sight of my motivation. It’s often tempting to just hang out on the couch with Netflix. Because tomorrow is a holiday, I’d love to get all my weekend chores done today so that I can enjoy tomorrow with my family. How do I find the motivation?
Find Your Groove
Seeing this sweet little guy’s face is really motivating to me. When I don’t want to do anything, I have to remind myself to stay focused. I know if I do the things that have to be done, then we can have family fun time. Today is a prime example. It is Saturday and both my husband and I are suffering from a serious case of laziness!
I read a lot about habit building and motivation. It really helps me stay focused when I feel lazy. If you can relate, you might enjoy reading some of my favorite motivation advice. Without further ado, let’s get to it!
The Motivation List
- Prioritize – when I don’t prioritize, I find myself working way too hard at things that don’t seem to get me anywhere.
- Keep it short – motivation guru Mary Kay Ash recommends adding no more than the SIX most important things to your list each day. And she’s right! If I add more than six, I get discouraged and do nothing.
- Make it fun – Marla Cilley, aka The Fly Lady, suggests making your tasks fun by doing things like lighting a scented candle and listening to music.
- Beat the clock – Marla also recommends setting a timer for just 15 minutes. She says we can do anything for 15 minutes. Then you can make a game out of it by trying to beat the clock!
- Eye on the Prize – My personal favorite strategy is to visualize what I CAN DO when I complete what I MUST DO. For example, today my husband and son went shopping (for me!) and I knew I had less than an hour to complete my chores. I really wanted to update my blog, too. So, I swept and mopped as quickly as I possibly could so that I would have time to do both things- and it worked!
- Schedule It! – Habit expert and author Gretchen Rubin suggests that we “make a date” Her logic is that we are more likely to keep our promises to ourselves if we make an appointment. I use this strategy a lot by setting alarms on my phone. I did this just yesterday, “At 11:00 AM on Friday, I am going to call the photographer and the doctor to schedule my son’s 18 months photos and checkup.” I had been putting it off for weeks, but when my alarm went off- I stopped what I was doing and made the calls!
- Abandon Perfectionism- Again, The Fly Lady (join her community HERE) says that too often our motivation is squelched by our perfectionism. It’s so true! When I try to do things perfectly, I get overwhelmed and either abandon ship or don’t start at all! A perfect example here is housework. Marla says that, “Even housework done incorrectly still bless our family.” I used to get caught up in having to sweep/mop PERFECTLY. I would want to move all the furniture, pick up the rugs, get the gunk off the mop, clean the sink so the mop water was fresh, etc. etc. etc. Then, one day I decided to just BUY A SWIFFER WET JET and hit the highlights. It has been life changing- our house gets mopped so much more often. I save the deep cleaning for occasions now.
- Be Your Own Cheerleader – I stay motivated by giving myself daily pep talks. It even works for silly things like flossing my teeth. I will tell myself, “You did such a good job by not having those M&Ms after dinner! I am proud of you!” It’s amazing what a little love for yourself can do to your attitude.
- A Small Reward – While I try not to use this strategy TOO often, it does work when used sparingly. I tell myself, if I can do all of my chores, then I can have a… (diet soda, small square of dark chocolate, etc.) If you use this one too often though, it seems to lose it’s effectiveness.
- Go Easy on Yourself – While this might seem counter intuitive, it is absolutely true that sometimes you just need a break! Know yourself. Learn to identify when you are pushing yourself too far. Avoid burn out by giving yourself a break when you need it.
There You Have It!
These are my top ten motivation strategies for when I feel less than productive. Of course, nothing works 100% of the time. However, I find employing just a few of these strategies can help me accomplish what needs to be done. I love reading about the science of motivation and habit-building. Healthy habits help significantly in curing my chronic anxiety.
Do you have any motivation strategies that help you accomplish your goals? I’d love to hear about them. Please let me know what they are by commenting below. As always, thank you for reading and I hope you have a blessed day!